I came to a realization that 2016 was not such a good year for me. Actually, that is an understatement. It was crap.
I also came to a realization that I have come a long way with my mindfulness journey this year.
Well, okay…if I take those two together and net them, I guess this year has not been so bad after all.
I quit my job of over 10 years and was forced to rethink my future as an accountant. The culture at work had changed and I didn’t like where it was heading. On the positive side, it made me question whether I really wanted to work in a field full of egos, where arrogance masked personal insecurities, where favouritism trumped hard work, where WHO you knew was more important than WHAT you knew.
The stress in the office was too much, not just for me but for everyone. I heard the saying “I got thrown under the bus by so-and-so” almost daily.
It became every person for themselves.
“Office Rage”, I call it.
People buckled under the stress and in some instances came up with outlandish excuses why things were going wrong.
“She actually did not want to work for so-and-so, that’s why she quit.”
“Only he knows what is going on…”
“She was not doing her job that someone else had to work the weekend for her.”
“I’m going to give her something so difficult so that she screws up and quits.”
“She was not really sick so she had come back to work.”
“The units are all stupid.”
“It’s all her fault…”
“It’s all his fault…”
When I recall the instances when I heard these sayings, I cringe. How can people say these things about each other?
I wanted out. I realized I needed to spend more time with my daughter and rethink, regroup, and reconsider what I really wanted to do. I’ve dubbed them my “3Rs”. Besides, did I really want to work with people whom I had considered “friends” all this time and then find out that they had thrown me under the bus several times!?!? Were they ever my “friends”? Or was I just a pawn in a game of office politics, just as everyone else?
My family was supportive and understood that it was time to leave. I can honestly say that I was so relieved when I quit.
I must admit that it is because I have been in this mindfulness journey that I have survived such a toxic environment.
I too could have played the game and thrown people under the bus. I recall I was pretty good at playing the finger pointing game in my previous life…I could have convinced myself “only the fittest survive” or it’s a “dog eat dog world.”
How can one look at themselves in the mirror and like what they see?
How could one not feel as if you sold your soul to the devil when you do something like that?
…and for what, a few minutes of feeling superior?
Is it really worth it?
Perhaps for some people it is a means of getting ahead. But this is definitely not me.
I also believe in karma. It will always come back to you in some form. I remember listening to someone who was going through a rough day. When asked what she should do, I said “Do Nothing. Believe in karma.” Her response was “Well, I can’t wait for Karma! It takes too long!”
Mindfulness helped me navigate the minefields of getting through the days, through the year. Not to say that I escaped unscathed, but at least I stayed true to myself. I can honestly look at myself in the mirror and say “You are alright.”
Ironically, a few days after I quit, I was offered another job with another company–still accounting related but more theoretical. I guess these things happen for a reason.
I am looking forward to 2017 and I’m interested where it will take me….
Here’s to a happy and prosperous 2017, everyone!