Thursday, May 21. It was 10:30 am.
I was on my way to another meeting on the 4th floor.
Took the stairs from the 7th floor and between the 6th floor and the 5th, I fell apart.
It had been almost 3 years since my first huge anxiety attack and I had learned then that I was not perfect, vulnerable, different. I learned then how to be more mindful, stay present, meditate to keep the edge at bay. I’ve had mini attacks since then but I always got over it, talked myself down from the edge and all was well again.
This was not part of the plan. This was not how it should be.
I did all the right things. I meditated everyday, I tried to be mindful everyday. I tried to let go of petty stuff everyday. Each day was a new beginning.
So, what went wrong?
I saw my doctor on Friday. I was glad to get an appointment so soon as she was always booked up. She would know what to do. She would help me make this right.
As she said “hello”, my tears started falling. Uncontrollable. “I failed”, I whispered. She looked at me questioningly. “I fell apart again.”
“But, Debbie, you were trying to BEAT IT and that you cannot do. You have to ACCEPT IT. Make peace with the fact that THIS is part of you.”
That gave me pause.
It made sense. Somehow it made sense.
So what now?
How do I accept? Make peace?
For those questions, she could not help me. I must find that out for myself. She wrote me a doctor’s note for work granting me some time off.
“This patient is unfit for work…”
Unfit for work…my thoughts were rebelling.
“But there’s so much to do! How about the accounting course that your team is hosting that is coming up in a few weeks? How about the countries you are responsible for? Am I going to be fired for this? Who is going to water my office plants when I am away? Was there any food stuffs on my desk that is going to stink? Any leftover coffee?…and on and on it went.
I pleaded that I really just need a few days off. I just need to get some good quality sleep and I should be ok.
She gave me two weeks and then we reassess.
In the meantime, I have to write, paint, garden, spend time with family, have coffee with my best friend, do yoga, meditate, read. BREATHE.
She called it “Adjusting my sails.”
I am skeptical. I have done all those.
I am just lost.
…but I am patient. I have adjusted my sails this past week.
Let’s see where it takes me…